How We Perceive Others

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Lucy Ramos 09/10/12 Social Psychology We often try to match our ideal self with our social self in order to feel more accepted in the social world. Social perception is known as the process by which people come to understand one another. In order to learn how others perceive us, we must first look at how we perceive ourselves and how we perceive others. The social comparison theory discussed by Leon Festinger (1954) states that people evaluate their own abilities and opinions by comparing themselves to others. People often compare themselves to others to feel more socially accepted or to set themselves apart from others. Others perceive us how we perceive ourselves. Having higher self-esteem causes others to pick up on that confidence and they themselves have confidence in you. If you are constantly worried about what you say or if you are concerned about what others think you project the idea in people head that you have low self-esteem. Others pick up on your negative energy and can use this against you. Just look at domestic abuse for example. One partner is trying to control the other using intimidation, fear, or even physical abuse. The abuser often isolates a person in their home and in the mind. The abused often has such low self esteem they feel like it is not worth it to leave. Maybe they think that no one actually cares. I feel like it can really important to hold yourself high because of examples like that. People often follow one of two different behaviors and attitudes when acting socially with other people. High self-monitors can be more socially accepting. They are often more attentive to what others are doing, willing to control expressions, and can be inconsistent in their own self display. Low self monitors are less likely to be concerned with their levels of appropriateness in a social setting. They are more
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