How To Resolve Conflict In A Relationship

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I want everyone to think back for a second to a time where you had got into an altercation with your significant other that went completely south. If your still together, its probably nothing short of a miracle and you both know that you could have dealt with the situation better. Dishonesty, disagreements, and hurt feelings can cause you and your partner to not see eye to eye causing conflict. Its true that not all problems are big problems and you may think some problems are to hard for you to handle but there are three simple steps you as a couple can take to lessen the stress of it all. In a relationship dealing with conflict you must admit, identify, and resolve, also known as clearing the A.I.R. One of the most difficult things to do for some indivisuals is to admit that they are wrong or that they simply made a mistake. Some people like to dance around the fact that they did something totally off and make excuses for why they did what they did such as " If you hadnt done such and such then I wouldnt have done such and such."No. This is not the way that it should happen. Playing the blame game only creates bigger problems which often leads to argueing off topic. Its better to handle one thing at a time and to take responsibility for your actions. We have all found ourselves asking someone"Why did you do that?" Its common to want to know why something occured in the manner that it did which is great because you want to identify the root of the problem. Skipping this step will make it possible to one not be able to complete the resolution process and two leave opportunity for it to happen again. Personally i feel this is the most important step and the second hardest because a "root" , in relation to the problem,can go back as far as childhood or can be a habit distilled in you or your partner . If its one of those not so easy to handle issues, this step
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