Her father had said, “None of the young men were quite good enough for Miss Emily and such.” (364) Her father never allowed her to make her own decisions even when she was almost 30 years old. Many people think that maybe the reason why he was so strict with Miss Emily and why he put so much pressure on her could have traced back to her family. Emily’s family was a very noble family and her father had thought that they were the most prominent in the entire town and that no one else was fit for Miss Emily. Any time a man would come close to being a part of Emily’s life, her father would not allow it and he would chase them all off. Her father had kept her away from any experience with love that she might ever have known.
One of the first problems that will cause a couple to fall out of love quickly is unemployment. Once there is no money coming into a house, love will diminish. It has been my observation that love does not conquer the fact that people are unable to pay their bills and enjoy the pleasures of life. I have witnessed firsthand the problems that occur with the lack of finances. My aunt married her high school sweetheart, and has said several times that he is the only man that she has ever loved.
She was one of four children from her parents, Clotilde and Berndt Danielson, marriage. During the time that the two were married, Berndt ruled with an iron fist and was not affectionate. When he remarried, Berndt had a son named Berndt Jr. The son took center stage and became the favored child. At the tender age of nine, Horney developed a crush on her brother but was rejected and shunned of reciprocated feelings from him.
I recall being 5 years old when I was sleeping with my older brother and my father came home drunk and out of his mind, arguing and fighting with my mother. He didn’t need a reason to be mad, he just had to leave and have a few drinks to set him off. My mother went to our room, woke us up and took us out of the house; my father went into a rampage and started breaking mirrors and throwing stuff on the walls. It is a few years later, when I realized that we didn’t had to go through all that. As the years kept going by, my father had moments of sobriety and converted to Christianity; however, it was a vicious circle.
When college came around, my brother’s was paid for. My future education however was discouraged. I’ll never forget my father’s words to me when it was my turn to go to college. “Why waste money sending you to college when you will just end up like your mother, getting married and raising babies. She graduated from RISD (Rhode Island School of Design) and never used her degree.” This was a stereotype that was ingrained and driven into me, defeating my aspirations for many years, but not squelching my desire altogether.
Nora behaves childishly and he enjoys treating her like a child to be instructed and indulged. Soon an old friend of Nora's, Christine Linde, arrives. She is a childless widow who is moving back to the city. Her husband left her no money, so she has tried different kinds of work, and now hopes to find some work that is not too strenuous. Nora confides to Christine that she once secretly borrowed money from a disgraced lawyer, Nils Krogstad, to save Torvald's life when he was very ill, but she has not told him in order to protect his pride.
I was the first born and was the only child till I was six, but during those six years I witness my mother getting hit by my father and him being drunk every day and never home. I was scared and didn’t know if this was okay and normal for my parents but what I did know is whenever it happened I was hiding and covering my ears. My dad would go on drinking binges for days with his cousins and would never be home, my mom would worry and leave me to go find him, usually he was at a bar or at his cousins house and she would bring him home. That’s when things would get throw, slaps would be heard, cries as well, and another beer opening. It got worse and not only was he hitting my mom but now me as well.
They thought they knew each other well enough to get married, but as Carl says it in the text “And once we did it seemed too late” (p.8, l.66). So now he thinks that he is stuck with this life. With a family that he feels separated from “they didn’t seem connected to him nor did he feel connected to them”(p.10, l.134). The only way for Carl to find comfort, for his sister’s illness, is in his sister’s friend, who is going through the same kind of pain. But since Carl moved to Worland with his wife and daughter a year ago, he hasn’t been able to stop thinking of Lily, a woman who attends his church.
Of course there going to convince him that they are different and have many qualities to be considered “Mrs. Right.” There are many clues to know if he’s Mr. Bachelor, like for example, if he doesn’t introduce you to his friends or family, which means he’s in no hurry to fully integrate you into his life. But the biggest giveaway is that his last significant relationship was way back and every relationship since has lasted only a few months at most. Around the time the women are expecting the relationship to shift into a serious one, instead he’s putting it in reverse.
It was not until my boys and I were living in a shelter and my now ex husband living in a car that I started to think that I was not on a right path in my life. Something had to give. My oldest son came to me one morning and told me that he knew what I was doing and if it made me happy, then he was happy. I cried for five hours. My eight year old should not condone my using drugs.