The church encourages couples to stay together and even provides counseling and support for struggling couples, but the consequences have changed. Like society, many churches have flourished and have so many members it would stifle the population of a small town. Couples just don’t stand out in their community or church anymore and wouldn’t suffer the social consequences of the past. Divorce itself has become the biggest problem. Just like children abused by their parents that in fact grow up to be abusive themselves.
Luna Williams English 100 02/10/2014 Just Whom is This Divorce “Good” For? Divorce is a huge topic a lot of parents think about when they feel that there spouse is no longer compatible with them and also the fact that it’s not working out for reason only they will know. It may just be the fact that two people that were deeply in love just feel out of it because of no connection anymore. In the article “Just Whom Is This Divorce” Good” For? Written by Elizabeth Marquart talks about how divorce can cause children even from a good divorce go through it there selves when they get older, children also feel that they are to blame for their parents getting divorced and they lose all interest for other things, there is also a lot of controversy about which parent gets which day can just lead up to a huge custody battle for most.
Also, some adults do not end up getting married, almost 19 million Americans (Benokraitis, n.d., 3). Furthermore, children under the age of 18 living with two married parents went from 77 percent to 67 percent (Benokraitis, n.d, 3). That finding shows the increase of divorce among Americans. The article, “The Changing Landscape of Family”, states that women are spending less time with their children than before and there is a decrease in the number of children per family. This is partially because women have started to go back to work and the economy in the present day is not very stable so supporting a bigger family is not easily done.
Some people tend to look at me funny for raising a child alone, yet others give me credit. I lost a lot of my ‘friends’ after having a child, because I was not able to go out and do a lot of social activities anymore. At least I now know who my true friends are. It also seems harder to form a relationship with a guy. They tend to say the same thing, that they aren’t ready for this kind of life and to take on the responsibility of a child.
Children are affected by the divorce more if the parents have custody hearings or move away from each other. The decision to terminate an unhappy marriage through obtaining a divorce is almost never an easy decision. It is usually reached only after other options and alternatives have been carefully considered and then rejected as non-viable
Other disadvantages from this situation can be that sometimes a single parent can’t afford expensive holidays which would make the child feel left out when they are talking about events when after coming back from their holidays and are asked to write or tell about what happened during the school holidays. The child will lose their self confidence and moral will be low if all the factors above do occur, they may also get jealous of other children who could be in a better situation because of the financial stability brought by having both the parents being together. Example 2: Children moving form Reception to Juniors most parents and children get worried about how they will fit into new environments, with children older then their own, not knowing how and what is required of them to which can cause both parent and child to feel insecure by not sleeping well and having nightmares, not eating food, and as the time gets closer the child will start to be more clingy towards the parent and vice versa for the parent
Around August of 2007, banks become afraid to loan money out due to the fact that they did not want to suffer from losing money yet again. “This led to the $700 billion bailout, and bankruptcies or government nationalization of Bear Stearns, AIG, Fannie Mae, Freddie Mac, IndyMac Bank, and Washington Mutual. By December 2008, employment was declining faster than in the 2001 recession.”(useconomy.com). With so many foreclosures on houses, many americans were either homeless, or had bought a cheap apartment to keep them from being homeless. Because of the recession, and bad economic, many Americans have no jobs, and barely have a house.
A single mother can try her hardest to keep a child away from making bad decisions, but if the mother doesn’t have any type of family support, chances are the child will guide himself to other unsafe, and unhealthy resources. Fathers who abandon their families might also add to the problem. Children tend to act up after their father has abandoned them. Children might act in violent ways, with anger issues and other hidden emotions.
If they had low self-esteem this could mean that the child/ young person may be facing further abuse in their parenthood as they are very defenseless. If someone has been abused from a child it may mean that they could possibly never reach their full potential. This would be due to depreciation that they had faced and possibly end up making them feel powerless to take on a role which would consist of obligation. Not being able to have relationships with people in the future, making friends as a child and finding a husband/partner once in parenthood. Self-harm would make the service providers very mistrustful as the pain imposed on them by themselves is showing as the pain they are facing at some other point with someone else.
Single mothers and fathers have a hard time raising one child let alone two or three but yet they keep on having child after child. Society’s views on a few things need to change to be able to get the foster care system under control because if families could take care of the kids they had then there would be no problems. I understand there are special circumstances but the number of children in the system is outrageous. I feel like what has led my client to be put into the foster care system is his or her own parents neglect. This could be neglect of just the child or neglect of substances or responsibilities whatever it is they didn’t step up to the plate like they should have when they had they kid and therefore the government did and