Luna Williams English 100 02/10/2014 Just Whom is This Divorce “Good” For? Divorce is a huge topic a lot of parents think about when they feel that there spouse is no longer compatible with them and also the fact that it’s not working out for reason only they will know. It may just be the fact that two people that were deeply in love just feel out of it because of no connection anymore. In the article “Just Whom Is This Divorce” Good” For? Written by Elizabeth Marquart talks about how divorce can cause children even from a good divorce go through it there selves when they get older, children also feel that they are to blame for their parents getting divorced and they lose all interest for other things, there is also a lot of controversy about which parent gets which day can just lead up to a huge custody battle for most.
Neff also addresses the fact that there are people who are against people moving in together before marriage. She states that it’s a personal decision people make because living together can have lasting positive effects that can later solidify a marriage. The author also states while living together may be valuable for some relationships, it can also be the source of an unhappy ending for others. Even though people love each other and spend a lot of time together, the question still remains, “Can you live together?” I agree with the author’s views on living together before marriage because I am currently sharing a space with my boyfriend. Living together before marriage helps a couple establish roles and responsibilities in the household.
Therefore, most individuals turn to their partners who have similar interests or values and promote equality (Feenstra, 2011). The idea that someone is playing hard to get appeases us. Individuals associate those who are playing hard to get as being selective about their social circle. Many reasons focus around why we pursue relationships with certain individuals and not others. The desire for camaraderie is essential to our humanly desires.
Children are affected by the divorce more if the parents have custody hearings or move away from each other. The decision to terminate an unhappy marriage through obtaining a divorce is almost never an easy decision. It is usually reached only after other options and alternatives have been carefully considered and then rejected as non-viable
Cohabitation before Marriage Marriage is a commitment between two people who plans to share their lives together with one another. Living together before marriage does not have the same advantages of being married. There are many reasons why individuals should not live together before marriage. Couples living together do not have the same legal and medical rights as married couples and there are sociological reasons that could affect each individual. Marriage is all about happiness and learning to love and care for each other.
Her mother on the other hand, means so much to her, she doesn't want her to be alone. She decides to desert her dream, she still lives with Grandma, much like a dependant child, yet she knows Grandma would suffer from great loneliness without her” (Bloom, Harold. “List of characters in Lost in Yonkers. p67-68). Bella’s guilt caused by her mother’s fear of loneliness has left her short of any male relations.
Why people choose to get married Every couple has different reasons to get married that apply to their unique relationship , and many couples share similar reasons for planning the long walk down the aisle . Whether a couple ' s reasons are purely emotional , legal , financial, or some combination of these or other reasons , recognizing why marriage is important can help them understand the commitment they have to their long term relationship . Emotional reasons are the most noticeable reason for people to get married . The companionship , romance , and love a couple shares can compel them to make the commitment to spend the rest of their lives together . Not all emotional reasons are romantic , however .
The goals should also be in coordination with your values and your purpose for the goals. It can often depend on what the couples are coming to counseling for in order to help the couple decide on what some of their goals should be. For example: A couple may come into the counselor office and needs help with their relationship because they seem to always argue. One of their goals could be how to help them minimize and eventually stop arguing so much and be able to discuss things in a decent manner. Goals can and will sometimes go wrong.
This originally all comes from biased perspectives. In communities where women are generally not considered viable wage earners, families often view daughters as an economic burden. Therefore, in the case of impoverished parents, they may decide to betroth a daughter early to ease the financial load of caring for a child. A bias could lead one to accept or deny the truth of a claim, not on the basis of the strength of the arguments in support of the claim, but through the extent of the claim's correspondence with one's own preconceived ideas. The confirmation bias here, has to do with the families that will engage their young daughters to marry older men to correspond to their ethical ideas that they behold.
Divorce is tragic on many levels and all too often the impact on children is more then just the shock of their parents living in two different places. Other then “deal breakers” which could have physical or psychological damage to a child, society needs to take another look at why they are getting