I even cursed at them several times showing my lack of respect. My punishments only consisted of the loss of some of my privileges, such as my video games, television, even my car; but they never grounded me. My discipline was so minimal I felt I could do as I pleased and no one could tell me otherwise. In turn, I treated my parents terribly; I even smoked marijuana, which they hated. Being careless and not listening to all my parents many cautions, I became a young mother in my late teenage years to a beautiful little girl.
Parents use discipline to teach their children the difference between right and wrong. The type of discipline parents use is entirely up to them but, "ninety percent of parents say that they have used [spanking] as a mean of discipline on their child, and most parents say that it was used on them when they were youngsters" (James). Spanking is a form of discipline that has been used by many parents; but it is now becoming the method that is being frowned upon by most doctors and many parents. "The American Academy of Pediatricians say that spanking might actually do more harm than good"(Eisenhauer), meaning that the spanking will not correct the problems that the child has, but only make them worse. In some countries around the globe, such as Norway and Sweden, elected officials have made it totally illegal for parents to spank their child.
I would have to agree with that because I am actually going through my parents getting a divorce and when I found out I didn’t want to believe it at all I didn’t want to see my parents split up it just wasn’t right to me. It really caused me to feel depression and I felt like I was the blame for their divorce. Thinking about it more I feel like can this divorce ruin my love for someone when it happens will I myself get divorce and put my kids through what I went through, I would not want that to happen and it scares me sometimes for my
Through our program, we had to have several “workshops” with the guardians each year. It was always hard to try to teach a grown person set in their ways that yelling at their child, was not the correct way of discipline. When working in today’s public school systems, often times, actions get scrutinized too much. Telling a child that you love them might cause someone to raise their brow. Children need praise and love.
Of course not, all people know that fighting can’t solve anything, and sometimes it would make the problem worse. Spanking the children is not okay because it would make the child has bad memories and spanking can’t solve problems. Spanking will make the children have bad memories. Even they grow up and become the one who doesn’t needs their parent spanking anymore, a good kids, he still remember how their parents hit them, and how it hurt.
They run around unbridled and do as they please so long as they do not bother their mother or father. I have seen children hit their parents and tell them “NO” or “I don’t have too!” I have seen on the news of teens running away because the parents wouldn’t let them do one thing or another, and then they turn up dead or raped. I am one of the few and fortunate one of these children that ran away from home and my parents found me in one piece. I know that I ran away because of plain disobedience. I wanted what I wanted and no one was going to tell me otherwise.
Growing up I was bullied plenty of times by insensitive students. The bullying and mocking affected me to the point where I didn’t want to go to school. However, with advice from my parents I learned to ignore the bullying and mocking because I was better than
This quote caught my attention because as a child who grew up with an absent father, I felt this essay really got to the heart of the problem that many children faces now a day. I was lucky in knowing my father's decision not to have anything to do with me growing up was because he resented paying support. I wish I could believe parents left for altruistic reasons, but I think those are just excuses. If they really feared screwing up their kids they could take classes, they could learn to be parents, take anger management classes. Simply, they cannot be arsed to bother.
Resistant Attachment Resistant attachment is the attachment pattern characterizing infants who remain close to the parent and fail to explore before separation, then are usually distressed when the parent leaves. When the parent returns the infant combines clinginess with angry, resistive behavior. This theory of resistant attachment really interested me because I have witnessed it plenty of times with my boyfriend’s nephew, Noah, and his sister-in-law, Elizavette. When first reading this chapter I thought they had a secure attachment but once I dug a little deeper and we discussed it in class I realized that it was not secure at all. Noah as an infant was very attached to his mother, Elizavette.
My last example for you would be this young parent that killed his baby because it cried too much. Now how easy would it had been to take your child to someone else until you come down. Abuse comes when people don’t think and just react. Or it’s just simply that they don’t care that’s why it’s important to have Child Welfare laws to look out for those that can’t look after themselves.