On Death and Dying
In On Death and Dying, Elizabeth Kubler Ross discusses the five stages of death. These are: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. These five stages are also known by the acronym “DABDA”. Kubler’s five stages theory isn’t just for the person dying. These stages can be relevant in the life of a person coping with grief or coping with the loss of a loved one. Although these five stages are written in an order they do not follow an order as the person may experience these stages. These stages may be like a roller coaster ride for those dealing with the passing of a loved one as well as those dealing with facing death. It all depends on the person and how the person may react to death or grief. Some may stay a large amount of time when dealing with one of the stages in specific, while others may quickly go through all stages. Once again, it all depends on the person.
Kubler discusses the first stage which is Denial. Many will refuse to believe the reality they face. Negligence and doubt filters the thoughts of those that have just been diagnosed with anything deadly. “I feel fine” or “the doctors are wrong”. Would be the individual’s response. Denial can be dangerous stage. Not only would the individual reject the truth, but they would also reject their medication, if any, leaving them angry with reality.
Anger, is the second stage according to Kubler, In this stage the individual is threw with denial, the person no longer denies the reality in which they’re in. Instead they get angry at it. The feeling of rage are evident in everything they do, making their lives and the lives of others difficult. However, it is necessary for the person to release all the anger within, they must go through this process. In other words, trying to make a person’s anger go away would be irrelevant in this stage.
The third stage then becomes bargaining. In this stage the individual regains some hope and a sense of expectancy. Some often go to a...