The nature of conflict shows that conflict can either push people away or bring them into having a closer, more comfortable relationship. Many people try to avoid conflict and try to find a way around it – even if this isn’t the right thing to do. Without conflict in a relationship can mean individuals cannot express their true opinions, thoughts and feelings for example; when an argument in the family arises, without the skills to negotiate and deal with the conflict, there will never be a positive outcome. Conflict comes in many different forms- political, religious, interpersonal, family, all of these deals with issues that arise due to difference of opinion or belief and are an inevitable part of human life. There are a wide range of causes as to why conflict occurs.
Communication is important in all relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns and support for each other. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond as well as our body language. All too often the signals we send are not those we intend to send. Tannen explains “women are often told they apologizes too much. The reason they’re told to stop doing that is that to many men, apologizing seems synonymous with putting oneself down”(para 4).
Most times conflict starters are designed to put the other person on the defensive, but by your reasonable and thoughtful restatement of the issue, you will almost always put your aggressor a calmer mood, and then you can truly discussing the issue at hand. In most cases, people begin there discussion with a conflict starter statement because they believe your response is going to be equally argumentative. By restating the argument in more neutral terms, however, the
* That positive relationships, long established, should not be changed for light and frivolous causes. * Accordingly, all experience has shown that I am more likely to suffer while negative external forces are attempting to influence me without my awareness, than when I knowingly enter into fair, balanced, and responsible exchanges of influence. It is, thereby, my right to abolish any destructive forms of influence to which I may have unknowingly been accustomed but have recently become aware of. * When a long history of abuses and negativity, pressing its will upon me, reveals a design to reduce my will and keep me under absolute tyranny and dependency, it is my right–it is my duty–to throw off such oppression, and to cultivate a new self-esteem along with honorable and just beliefs for my future
Second, the team needs to work out some complex issues. In this case, identity-related are involving: the cross- functional team members are geographically dispersed and have different background. According to the “Managing Conflicts in Organizations”, compromising approach is better when a conflict has identity-related factors as a cause. All in all, compromising is the most appropriate response in Lauren’s case. Compromising approach is best to work under the time pressure and can also achieve consensus to complex issues.
Assumptions should play no part in critical thinking but unfortunately they do, and often. I know as humans we all make snap judgments, but the idea is to push aside our assumptions and judgments when we think critically. Thinking critically is a skill that you either have or you don’t, the ones who have it will ultimately be the ones to thrive in their respective fields. Though it may be difficult to avoid making assumptions, as professionals we have no choice. We can keep our assumptions to ourselves but unless we consider all aspects of the situation we are not thinking critically.
In life we will always have conflicts, at home, at work and even at school. You can let one of two things happen; you can let the conflict become bigger than it really is or try to meet on common ground. I will always choose to work things out, regardless if I’m wrong or right. Doing this will not only help me with my conflict managements skills, but they will also improve my interpersonal skills and my ability to be open minded. In our world today, customer service is top priority, so if I’m able to enhance my ability to solve conflicts, than I can possibly conquer any conflict that comes my
However, I am also a person who likes directions and rules to make logical sense. If I am skeptical or unsure as to its logic, I will question and present alternate ideas which is uncharacteristic of a conventional thinking style. The dependent thinking style, for which I also scored in the 97th percentile, is characterized by indecisiveness, feelings of helplessness, preoccupation with pleasing people and passivity. I agree that I am a dependent thinker. I often look to other people’s opinions when trying to make decisions and I often feel that things that happen in my life are beyond my control which leads to feelings of helplessness.
Another weakness would be confidence, I know I am capable of doing the work but sometimes I doubt myself and my capabilities especially in the O.R. setting, I need to work on not allowing other individuals such as surgeons, reps, or nurses frazzle me to the point where I am not able to do my job like I am normally able to do. My first plan to improve my weakness of life interference I have already started to implement and the solution is to put myself in a better situation work extremely hard pray and work harder and make better choices slow down and think before acting make logical decisions not ones based off of emotion only. A way to improve my confidence weakness is to treat the O.R. like any other x-ray scenario, make sure I am familiar with the equipment prior to going into surgery and get familiar with the types of surgeries I will be doing.
This research will be viewed from two different sets of perspectives in order to give validity to the study. On one hand, Michael DeBenedetto will be giving a personal account of the interpersonal conflict through his experience in the relationship. The second perspective will be through a third party source, Nabeel Chouche, who has systematically observed the situation as well as taken interview data from both parties in the conflict. The interpersonal struggle is between Michael and his girlfriend though multiple episodes across time, dealing with issues concerning time management. In interpersonal relationships, there are naturally occurring contradictions or dialectics that often take place.