Dealing with tragedies & losses.
Tragedies and disappointments are something most people have a really hard time dealing with, which is why they’re called tragedies. It is really important to know how to deal with situations in which someone has suffered a loss because they’re in a very delicate state. A lot of things you might want to say may offend them, and that’s the last thing you want to do.
In confirmation class, we learned that there are some things that will make a situation like this worse, and some things that will make it better. When someone has recently suffered a loss, a lot of adages people want to say will not be helpful. For example, saying “everything happens for a reason” will make the grieving person wonder what their loved one did to deserve this. Saying “they’re in a better place” will not improve the person’s morale, because the person is no longer with them. Trying to convince the person you know what their going through is not always the best idea, because they’ll just think, really, how could anyone understand the pain I am feeling? Most of the time, the best thing you can do for a person is give them a hug and let them know you’ll be there for them through it all.
A few months ago, my friend was devastated because his grandma had just passed away. I told him I was really sorry and I couldn’t even imagine how hard it must be for him. I also let him know I would be there for him and let him know I am always there to listen if he wanted to talk to someone. He really opened up to me and we talked about it for a long time. A few weeks later, he told me how much talking to me had helped him and that it was comforting to know he wasn’t alone. It made me feel god to know I made him feel better.
` These ways of dealing with delicate situations can be very helpful at any point in life, because someone will always be dealing with something they don’t want to face alone. You’ll want to comfort them to the best of your ability. I think the...