Abstract This paper will explore certain things that couples deal with while in couples counseling that will help counseling more effective for couples. The goals of couples counseling, dealing with anger, theories of couples counseling and ethical issues in couples counseling will be discussed in this paper. This paper will also help determine if the efforts that each couple but into counseling will be effective enough that they will be able to resolve whatever issues that they may have had in the past or the future. Couples therapy or couple’s counseling is a useful way to help couples who are experiencing difficulties such as repetitive arguments, feelings of distance or emptiness in the relationship, pervasive feelings of anger, resentment and or dissatisfaction or lack of interest in affection or in a physical relationship with one another. The Goals of couples counseling should be established mostly by the couples themselves.
Self-forgiveness is similar to interpersonal forgiveness, for which there is much more literature available, but self-forgiveness is classified as intrapersonal forgiveness. Interpersonal forgiveness involves forgiveness from the offender to the person offended, therefore interpersonal. On the other hand, self-forgiveness is intrapersonal because it does not involve another person but rather one-self. Hall and Finchman attempted to show the similarities and differences between these two forms of forgiveness by providing a chart, which seems to be a very informative and useful chart. The most important observation is the fact that the person must first acknowledge the wrong done and then accept responsibility before the process of self-forgiveness begins.
One of the roles is self-concept and the other is stress buffer. These two roles determine how social support aid in the time of crisis. The next section in the article was role of religion in coping. This section of the article gives the reader a better understanding of how religion helps a person to cope in crisis. One thing really important in this section is the “vulnerability factor.” It names almost defines itself.
Cloud and Townsend carefully explain why one relationship works and why the other one does not. The basis of the theory is that one must be free to be responsible to completely love the other (Cloud and Townsend, 1999). Their book is a roadmap to that lasting, loving marriage relationship. Summary of Theory Cloud and Townsend teach about the property lines of life, where one person’s responsibility ends and where another person’s begins. Cloud and Townsend present their book in three sections: understanding boundaries, building boundaries in marriage, and resolving conflict in marriage.
Sticking to principles of practice means that quality should be assured, tasks are covered and that actions are also recorded appropriately and accurately. If there are any challenges then security and confidence comes from a job well done in accordance with the codes of practice .there may be temptations to exceed the role to become a friends rather than a worker. Whilst befriending is acceptable a closer relationship might contribute both to dependency and exceeding a role. For example undertaking medication dosage or exceeding the brief by engaging in family conflict for example or accepting gifts. All could compromise the role of the worker and lead to unfortunate consequences for all.
Neff also addresses the fact that there are people who are against people moving in together before marriage. She states that it’s a personal decision people make because living together can have lasting positive effects that can later solidify a marriage. The author also states while living together may be valuable for some relationships, it can also be the source of an unhappy ending for others. Even though people love each other and spend a lot of time together, the question still remains, “Can you live together?” I agree with the author’s views on living together before marriage because I am currently sharing a space with my boyfriend. Living together before marriage helps a couple establish roles and responsibilities in the household.
Another dilemma would be knowing when to break confidentiality and share information. If you have any concerns about an individual or feel they are at risk you need to share them and report it, it is always better to be safe than sorry. Other dilemmas in our setting could be:- • Staff falling out, • Break confidentiality, • Swearing and behaviour, • Absent staff members, • Lack of team work. 2.2 Describe how to manage risks associated with conflicts or dilemmas between an individual’s rights and the duty of care. There are many ways to manage risks associated with conflicts and dilemmas:- • Allowing individuals to explore with guidance, • Making individuals aware of potential hazards and dangers, • Allowing individuals to acquire life skills through learning how to cope with risky situations, • Staff ignorance, • Parents are a risk to staff if reported to social services.
Following divorce, we can also have the self concept of inadequacy and unimportance, which affect us negatively. Making a friend can affect us positively as by Maslow's theory again, this time in the opposite way. We will have our love and belonging requirements met, this may help to raise our self esteem and with a more positive self esteem, we can then view ourselves in a more positive way. With a new friend, we can then positively and have a sense of
1.4 Describe how own values belief systems and experiences may affect working practice Own values, belies systems and experiences may affect working practice as you may follow your own beliefs which are different to others and could cause conflict you may have a different religion to a service user and things you may think are fine could be very offensive to them your experiences may make it difficult if you disagree with work policies and procedures provided. 2.1 Explain how people may react and respond to receiving constructive feedback People may react in different ways to constructive feedback, some people may take it on board and use it to improve better practice where as other may take offence and feel they are being
6-7). Recent research indicates that there are certain factors within marriages that start with cohabitation that predisposes a marriage to dissolution which are similar to Dr. Stanley’s findings (Devaus & Weston, 2003). Other researchers examining different cultures have found similar findings in their research concerning marital breakdown (Hewitt, Baxter & Western 2005). The theory of experience suggests that if people cohabitate for longer periods of time and with “multiple partners” it leads to less commitment to the ideals of marriage and its sacrament or religious meaning (p. 8). The theory of experience illustrates that there is an “erosion of motivation and commitment towards marriage” when individuals choose