Overall it could therefore be argued that rather than partners becoming more equal, women now have to carry a ‘dual burden’, whereby she is responsible for two jobs of unpaid or paid labour. Factors such as patriarchy and conforming to a gender script will lead to these divisions. Secondly, it could be argued that the money management within a family has an effect on the power relations between couples. Edgell argues that the reason why men are likely to take the decisions is because they earn more; women usually earn less than their husbands, and as a result of being dependant on them, have less say in the decision making. Similarly, Michelle Barrett and Mary McIntosh additionally argue that men usually make the decisions about spending on important items.
Many couples end up deciding that the woman and the children will take the males last name, because that it just how it has always been and why change the tradition. Many women find that having the same last name as their husband helps them feel more like a family, and a new name is an important symbol of the journey they are taking together. Personally, when I get married, I will gladly change my last name to whatever my husband happens to be, because following the tradition is important to me. Williamson gave her own experience on how not following tradition can affect everyone in the family when she stated “He’d just delivered the happiest news of his mother’s life - that her first grandchild had been born and followed up with a sucker punch to the heart. The baby was going to have my last name” (69) Williamson’s mother-in-law is woman who
During that time, the expected role of men and women are different, men were expected to be a bread winner and women just expected to be a house wife. However, Ibsen believes these roles limit individual freedom and his play “A Doll’s House” explores the belief that duty to self in more important, and must come before duty to others. The beliefs in 19thcentury and values are different from now. In that time, women’s personal growth and freedom are limited. At that time, a woman’s life is just like passing from her father’s hand to her husband’s.
Whereas, the couples must love each other unconditionally and decide on choosing each other without the input of anyone else but themselves, it is assumed that “married couples should be best friends, sharing their most intimate feelings and secrets. They should express affection openly but also talk candidly about problems. And of course they should be sexually faithful to each other.” (Coontz 381) In my opinion, I do not agree with Stephanie Coontz saying George Shaw theory of marriage has unrealistic expectations even though each culture has their own interpretation of marriage. No matter what each culture is different, if they believe that having more than one wife or having cospouses it is their choice and some will stay true to the values they were raised on. Finally, Coontz brought forth if someone is not marrying for love but just for the status then what is the point of getting married.
The common perception of marriage is that it was originally weighted heavily in favour of the male member of the couple, and that this has shifted slowly to a more even-handed arrangement in recent years. This essay will examine the question of how accurate this belief really is. Historically, marriage was highly unequal. While the husband took the role of breadwinner and went out to earn the necessary money to support the family, his wife was expected to stay at home and look after the more mundane tasks that make up the day-to-day running of a household. As the former role was commonly seen as more valuable than the latter, this often meant that the husband held most of the power, such as deciding where they would live, how resources were distributed, etc.
You must always maintain a respect for one another, in words and actions. It is a terrific blessing for a long time. Marriage is what you make of it. The changes that stand out to Viola in family life today are men and women roles are more alike than ever before. The wives no longer cook for the family or take care of the children and the husband is no longer the primary sources for the family.
For example before it was very tradition for a woman to get married and be a stay at home wife looking after the children and depend on the man to be the breadwinner and support his family however, because there has been a change in the role of the woman the woman does not to fall back on the man anymore. For example there has been a rise in feminism therefore woman are being treated more equally and can get jobs and have careers like men and they can be the breadwinner. Also because there have been changes in the law, it is now easier for couples to get a divorce. The laws have equalized the ground for divorce between the sexes, it has widened the grounds for divorce and it has become cheaper to get a divorce. Also another reason for divorce rates changing could be because of societies attitudes towards marriage and divorce.
In today’s society families consist of civil unions, single parents, and families that try to utilize and keep the same values that were present in the 1950’s. These families are faced with restrictions from society, living up to the expectations to provide the same love and support as the traditional families do. Everyday these families prove that they are capable of breaking the molds. In life we are affected by the decisions that politicians make everyday based on marriage. We are facing a big problem in society about marriages and their stances on civil unions.
The life of a scholar did not combine easily with the needs of a family. Even the most brilliant and those supported by their families rarely escaped the traditional expectations about the role of women: marriage and
After meeting more like Sita, she then saw arranged marriage in a different way. After a few years, she decided to come back to India to further study their culture. She learned how delicate and time consuming arranging a marriage was. She was familiarized with the basic rule while she accompanied her friend to look for a match to his eldest son. Her friend is looking for marriageable daughter who is from the same subcaste or higher, preferably only a daughter, not too independent, good-looking, well educated and well brought.