This is not true. When a child gets a spanking it is on the buttocks and it is only a few swats, not repeated hitting. Spanking is one thing and beating is another. When there is a tough decision between the two just be calm and go about what will be the best for the situation. If a parent feels like they will not be able to stop when spanking and it would lead to beating then they should use one of the other forms of discipline.
Kaylee Ellis Disciplining Children When it comes to disciplining a child, there is no right or wrong answer on which way is the most effective way; not only right after the child misbehaves, but also how it will effect them later on in life psychologically and developmentally. All over the world culture, morals, and views all differentiate they way people punish their child. What is acceptable in America might not be acceptable in Japan and how Japanese parents penalize their children may not be what Americans agree with. Unless there is a universal agreement on how to punish a child, it will continue to be one of the most controversial topics in the parenting world. When disciplining a child, parents often seek the best way to get control over their disobedience as soon as they can.
There is a difference, however, between punching your child in the face, and spanking him on the bottom when he is misbehaving. Unfortunately, some parents take smacking and spanking their children too far. Some parents use physical discipline to the point where the child is receiving bruises or starts bleeding. Banning the spanking of children will not solve the real abusive cases. People who abuse their children will not stop just because it is illegal(1, Selwyn Duke , The New American).
This method is wrong because it had bad consequences. Parents can use the correct method of education when the child baby. Many parents never learned from their own childhood that there are positive ways of relating to children. For example when punishment does not accomplish the desired goals, and if the parent is unaware of alternative methods, punishment can escalate to more frequent and dangerous actions against the child. Parents believe that beating is a means of discipline and kind of education.
It is because this may not only lead to a damaged relationship between teachers and students, but also can lead to negative associations. Consequently, positive punishment cannot be used frequently. Apart from the above method, there is another way to chastise the students which is negative punishment. Negative punishment is the removal of a favorable stimulus after an unwelcome performance in order to decreases that response, which means if students did something wrong and their favorable things such as toys or smart phones will be taken away as a punishment. Jason, one of my students, as an example, he loves playing PSP and NDS very much, so before
Spanking may stop the child then and there, but there’s a cost emotionally and cognitively to a child, and over the long run, it doesn’t usually lead to the child learning not to repeat the behavior that resulted in the spanking in the first place. It can also lead to the child learning to behave because of fear, not because of respect. (Cantu) Spanking a child results in them being afraid, and that hitting is the way you handle conflict. Instead, send a message to your child such as, “I love you and I can’t let you do that.” Children can learn best by mimicking their parents’ ability to control themselves, and parents can be models by using calm, firm and neutral discipline” (Cantu). Spanking is a form of abuse that people tend to turn a blind eye to.
They know what they want and when they don’t get it, they cry, or scream, or express their emotions in another way. Divorce is a difficult and unpleasant event in life of any person, and children become its victims as well. Of course, they don’t want to lose the possibility of seeing another parent less frequently than another, and thus they express their disappointment in a way usual for them. People start to think that children shouldn’t suffer because of it, and maybe they should try to restore the relationships and so on. But, unfortunately, such tries often end with nothing good and children suffer even more.
Corporal Punishment: An Unnecessary Evil Corporal Punishment, as Struas and Donnelly (2005) define, “the use of physical force with the intention of causing a child to experience pain, but not injury, for the purpose of correcting or controlling the child’s behavior” (p.3). Although perfectly legal in most states, to intentionally inflict pain upon our children to achieve a desired level of obedience, does not make it right or negate the fact that such types of punishment can have negative effects not only physically, but emotionally and psychologically as well. “Parents need to encourage their kids, support them, spend time with them, and tell them they love them. Parents should not be allowed to hit their children, that is violence and things will only get worse” (Covell & Howe, 2008, p.63). As times progress, more adults view on corporal punishment seem to be following suit, as seen in surveys over the years.
Because we are only human, we tend to make mistakes more often than not, and because we make those mistakes, it is hardly impossible to argue that humans are good. From a very young age, our parents work hard to teach us to share our toys and to play nice with our peers, but what some don’t realize is that if our parents weren’t around to teach us that, we would never learn, and eventually grow up to be unapologetically bad. This is because it is part of human nature to keep the best for ourselves, and to keep others away from what we feel is ours. Humans are not born with the ability to want to automatically share what is theirs, and this only adds to my point of view that much more. Cabrales 2 The only reason that the world is able to function correctly, the way it has for an extremely long time, is because of the laws that have come to surface in order to keep us in line.
We have all experienced this or know how it works in some way whether going through it ourselves or not. Children are the ones who are normally affected the most; they will have to learn to deal with their parent’s divorce at such a young age, affecting them in a positive or negative way. Although, divorce really is not a good thing, sometimes it can be positive such as; children being happy, parents being happy, and allowing them to mature. Parents being separated can be better for the kids because then they do not have to deal with the parents fighting. If they are put in better and stable environments it can affect them in positive ways.