Being able to love is something you have to have within yourself. The three dimensions of passion, intimacy and commitment will continually take great work to continue a growing relationship; it is not a given in yourself or with whom you chose to love. Many miss the opportunity to experience such a love because they fail to realize it takes work. You can have the passion in the relationship; which is more the desire to want to be with that person, and you can have the intimacy of the relationship; which is the feelings of being close to someone, but if you do not have the commitment in the relationship then there is no foundation to build on. The commitment is where the two of you made a decision to love one another and maintain that relationship.
People will often ask what makes a good or long lasting relationship. In truth there is no one answer, what works for some will not work for others, it’s about finding the balance that suits the both people. At the beginning of a new relationship, the excitement of being in that relationship helps us to not see the things the other person does which may cause annoyance. At this stage in the relationship both parties find themselves faced with everyday realities which means they have to work at the relationship to find and maintain a balance. When couples are faced with life changing events or illnesses the balance changes quickly and they will find themselves in the difficult position of facing their own feelings and fears while trying to support each other.
“”I want you kids in bed in an hour.” “Yes, Dad,” Sandy and Marianne said at the same time.” pg. 11. She is also victimised in the sense that she is a reliable person, and people like her sister, Marianne, use that to their advantage. “Sandy was Marianne’s insurance,…” pg. 112 When Marianne meets up with Billy at the deli, she takes Sandy along with her, so that if she is questioned about her actions, she could simply say, “But Dad, Sandy was there too.” pg.
I like the comedy, love story with a dramatic twist and I was able to have both of these in these stories. These stories although being short seemed to send a message about marriage and how at times it can be tough and it takes work, in the The Story of an Hour you understand this story was from a very long time ago and the man doesn’t always dominate in the same manner this story implies in this day and age. In the The Secret Life of Walter Mitty you see that he loves his wife and she seems to be the dominate character and so when he is left on his own he dreams of being someone of importance and you can understand that in his marriage he doesn’t feel he is that important so he dreams these silly dreams where he is somebody to look up
Many people assume that love and passion go hand-in-hand in a relationship. People have come to believe that one true love can satisfy the need for passion. In The Storm, Kate Chopin uses imagery, flashback, and parallelism to draw a fine line between passion and love. Chopin presents passion as an emotion separate from love. She creates the feeling that passion is an intense emotion that is more mysterious than love could ever be.
This was probably the first book I read that I found myself to be totally enthralled with, I sat down and started reading and got lost in the words. I got so into it that my mom would be trying to talk to me and I had no idea she was even there, I was sucked right in. It was about a girl (Patricia) who finds a pocket watch while on summer vacation at a family cabin where she doesn’t fit in, she is teased relentlessly by her cousins, and uses it to travel back in time to the summers her mom spent here, and while living in two time periods she finds ways to relate to her mother which she could not find in real life. The way it was written I could see myself right there in the story and I found that I related very well to Patricia. The watch was her temporary escape from reality, and for me thats books, she used the watch to learn about herself and I always find I am learning new things about myself when I read.
Lorraine Hansberry explores all of these in the play A Raisin in the Sun, through the eyes of the characters and what may happen to their dreams. The play centers around the Younger family who has the dilemma of what to do with a small amount of life insurance money that they received after the death of Big Walter, the patriarch of the family. They have the perception that money is the source that will provide them with their dreams. What they do not realize is that their dreams do not mean much if they do not have each other. It takes the course of the play and many twists and turns for them to come to that realization.
Micquelyn Montgomery Bri Kneisley 3-6-12 English 90 Loving U In the essay “I want to be a Miss America” by Julia Alvarez she talks about learning to love the inner you. Alvarez’s family came from Dominican Republic to America for a better life. Being a woman Alvarez’s struggled with America’s version of a woman. Alvarez and her three sisters would watch the Miss America Pageant’s each year admiring the young ladies. As a family they would watch the shows in their parent’s room.
My mother was fairly young and still in high school, so my grandmother Christine Cooks made it one of her top priorities to take care of me. She did my hair, fed me, played with me, and put me to sleep. When I was around the age of two she bought me a play kitchen. I was so used to seeing my grandmother cook every morning that I wanted to do the same. I would say, “Grandma, are you making grits?
Conversation 2: interpersonal attraction During welcome week I met a girl, Kayla, and we started to talk because I was physically attracted to her. After a few conversations I realized that I am not only attracted to her physically but, also personality, and proximity. We started to talk about simple things about the weather and our majors but we quickly took off and by the end of the night we talked about where we lived and what our personal beliefs were. This conversation of ours is a great example of interpersonal attraction because we both had the “desire to interact with someone based on…physical attractiveness, personality, and similarities” (Seiler and Beall 383). With our interpersonal attractions to each other we grew from being acquaintances to a couple.