Every parent has different ideas on how to raise children and believes their way is best. Amy Chua and Hanna Rosin are no exception to this. Amy Chua believes in a parenting style that is foreign and very different to Western parents. Her style is formed from a Chinese background and she refers to it as tiger parenting. Amy Chua has received a lot of criticism because of her strict parenting style.
Chua listed all the things she doesn’t allow her children to do, and she believes that it is correlated to how successful her children will be. There are many differences between the ways that Chinese mothers and Western mothers raise their kids according to Chua. Chua points out many differences between Chinese mothers and Western mothers; one of those differences is that Chinese mothers spend ten times longer working with their kids’ academic activities in contrast to Western mothers who prefer to spend more time working with their kids on sport activities than academics. In contrast, Western mothers believe that academic success should not be something that their children stress about. According to Chua there are three differences that cause the Chinese mothers to be “superior.” First, Chinese parents don’t care as much about their kid’s self-esteem as Western mothers do.
Since majority of Chinese parents set such high standards for their children’s social life, academics, and extracurricular activities, it makes them better parents than most Western parents. In most cases, strict parenting involves parents having the responsibility to impose rules and guidelines for their children’s social life. If not, most parents feel that their children will take advantage of their free time, and utilize it in an unnecessary manner. For example, “It drew from studies which had shown that girls whose parents were 'mediocre' were more likely to experience 'significantly more internalizing problems such as low self-esteem or the use of illicit drugs'.” (Clark, 2009). Clearly, this shows that studies prove that due to ‘mediocre’ parents having less involvement in their children’s social life, will lead their children to making immature decisions that they may regret.
Unlke Yunior, she did not grow up in another country. Her struggle deals with finding an identity as a Chinese- American. Unlike the Domincan culture, which seems to be outspoken and open, the Chinese seem to encourage silence and secrets. The novel begins with Kingston’s mother saying, “You must not tell anyone,” before sharing the story with her daughter. - Silence is encouraged in their culture, allowing Kingston to develop into a shy, awkward girl with trouble adjusting.
And the Chinese daughters that were born in America who have to juggle both struggles of their Chinese origin and the American prospects in order to succeed and meet their mothers expectations. The expectations of the narrator, Jing Mei’s, Chinese immigrant mother desires to make her into a musical sensation so that Jing Mei can compete with one of her mother’s friend, Lindo Jong’s, daughter is the major conflict in the story. The expectations that her mother is burdening her with are far too extraordinary for Jing Mei and isn’t what she wants to be or do with her future. It didn’t make it any better that her mother was a descendent from the Chinese culture, so her mother’s view and wishes all reflected from what was limited and banned within the Chinese heritage. Jing Mei, Being her mother’s only
Essay; “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” The article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” by Amy Chua posted in The Wall Street Journal; January 8, 2011 is an educational philosophy of Chinese mothers and Western parenting. Amy Chua, a Chinese mother of two daughters, gives her opinion of how children should be pushed into working hard, to achieve, and be the best. “Nothing is fun until you’re good at it” – this is Amy Chua technique and opinion on how to motivate her children, to ensure that they achieves to the maximum of their abilities. But the dilemma lies, when the question of educational philosophy contrast to the western worlds. Some studies show that Chinese parents spend about 10 times as long as Western parents on academic activities with their children on a daily basis.
If a family ignores the policy, and has more than one child, they will have to pay a large fine; can lose their job, and any bonuses at work. The policy has a few exceptions, for example people with no siblings are allowed more than one child, along with rural families, ethnic minorities, and foreigners living in china. In rural areas, families can apply for a second child if their first child is a girl, disabled or has a mental illness. The policy caused a drop in fertility rate, from 3 children per woman in 1980, to 1.54 children per woman in 2011. Chinese authorities consider the policy, a great success, as it was estimated that China had three to four hundred million less people in 2008 than it would have done, had the policy not been introduced.
It finds that less supportive parenting techniques used by some Chinese parents damages self-esteem and complicates school adjustment, while also putting kids at greater risk of depression and problem behaviors. “Our research shows that Tiger Mother type of parenting, specifically controlling, punitive, and less supportive type of parenting is really not working in this sample of Chinese adolescents,” said Cixin Wang, an assistant professor at UC Riverside’s Graduate School of Education. “It also shows that it is important for Chinese parents, who tend to be less emotionally expressive and use less praise in parenting, to show their approval, love and support for their children.” POPULAR AMONG SUBSCRIBERS Interstellar, Where No Movie Has Gone Before Subscribe The Last Men of Steel Review: Interstellar’s Wonder of Worlds Beyond Chua’s book was packed with vivid, sometimes shocking tales of her strict approach to raising her own daughters, including
We don’t take care of anyone until our parents are older, and then we usually have a sibling to help out. Because of the one child policy, the Chinese Youth have
Asian mothers There is a substantial amount of difference in the question of upbringing of children whether you are in the eastern hemisphere or in the western hemisphere. In the east, parents have a more strict policy towards children than in the west. In Asia it is primarily the women who are in charge of the children’s upbringing where in the west parents see it more as a joint venture. Lu Chin who is an Asian mother is the woman behind the essay “Asian Mothers” which was brought in The Wall Street Journal in January 2011. Lu Chin is arguing for the Asian model of bringing up children with arguments such as most Asian children receives a better result of their education than the Western children.