The main purpose of stage one is to build a non-threatening counselling relationship, help the client explore their situation and then be able to focus on chose issues. At this point the helper/listener helps the client to identify problems and then assess their own resources. At this stage most people are reluctant to change and may resist. Through positive exploration of new perspectives and constructive challenges to rooted negativity the client is able to move to the next stage. Some of the stage one exploring skills include; Open ended questioning, silences, focusing, empathy, paraphrasing, structuring and summarising.
Then we need to empathize with the person, understand what they mean, an ask/encourage the person which we are listening with. When we question them we are showing them that we are listening/encouraging them to give their opinions on the subject. Last but not least paraphrase/summarize what our counterpart has said. When we repeat their ideas it helps the other person that we understood/listened. Finally don't interrupt when the person is talking.
If used properly the goal of the therapist will communicate in such a way for client personality change to occur. Over time and treatment the clinician would have an unconditional positive regard for the client. Thus far, building a respect for the client and their concerns should be the center focus of the clinician. The therapist encourages the client to use self exploration and acceptance, and openness to self and others by giving clarification of what the client is saying and reflecting on the feelings of the client. The client will learn to show empathy and warmth toward him self and anyone involved.
Throughout this method of counseling, the service user begins to accept themselves for who they are and begin the gain a sense of worthiness. This approach can also help others to gain empathy – this incorporates listening skills, to accept someone else for who they are and to be able to comprehend with their emotions. Empathy involves putting aside any pre-judgment. (Health and Social Care, Book
Emphasis is on reviewing, consolidating, saying goodbye and shifting success to client. 2. Explain the importance of opening a session appropriately. Setting the scene and the relationship between the listener and speaker and building a level of trust and boundaries. It is the beginning of a therapeutic relationship whereby the listener actively and attentively listens to the speaker in order to gain insight and understanding.
It’s also easier to make the critical voice ego dystonic, something the client eventually rejects as “not me.” At the same time that you are identifying and naming the pathological critic, you can also introduce the client to his or her “healthy voice.” The healthy voice is the client’s ability to think realistically. By emphasizing and strengthening this ability you are positioning the client to begin talking back to the critic. Names that are typically used for the healthy voice include “my rational part,” “my accepting part,” “my compassionate part," “my healthy coach,” and so on. Choose a name that fits the client’s self-concept (i.e.,
Additionally, developing self-awareness helps the client to rediscover meaning in life. Some clients will, however, need a more structured therapy than is typical in a humanistic person-centered approach. One of the strengths of using a humanistic/person-centered approach when working with clients is the warmth and caring of the relationship that (hopefully) develops between counsellor and client. The counsellors active listening and full emotional availability will provide them with a healing environment within which they can explore their emotional experiences safely and without judgment. Central to the therapist's role in client-centred therapy is respecting the clients values as well as maintaining a therapeutic nonjudgmental attitude.
This is usually as a result of the client needing to gain more from their sessions rather than continually going over the same issues. Failure to recognise any of these issues can lead to a breakdown in the communicating process and often set the client back to where they started. The client needs to feel valued and listened to. To miss the signs being sent could have major effects on the client. Should a session stop proceeding forward and the client become silent, this would be a good place to find out exactly how they are feeling, and
Second, is active listening, to become an active listener you have to “respond to feelings, encourage the speaker to get in touch with his or her own thoughts and feelings by phrasing what was just said, ask questions and give your undivided attention.” (Roland, 2000) These are some steps that researcher recommend for active listener. And lastly “Active listening techniques are especially useful in the counseling process as the supervisor attempts to ferret out problems.
Abstract This paper will explore certain things that couples deal with while in couples counseling that will help counseling more effective for couples. The goals of couples counseling, dealing with anger, theories of couples counseling and ethical issues in couples counseling will be discussed in this paper. This paper will also help determine if the efforts that each couple but into counseling will be effective enough that they will be able to resolve whatever issues that they may have had in the past or the future. Couples therapy or couple’s counseling is a useful way to help couples who are experiencing difficulties such as repetitive arguments, feelings of distance or emptiness in the relationship, pervasive feelings of anger, resentment and or dissatisfaction or lack of interest in affection or in a physical relationship with one another. The Goals of couples counseling should be established mostly by the couples themselves.