Many children in an America are lazy and don’t strive to give themselves goals, especially academically. Empowerment is something we even as a country need more of for our children. Tiger Mom’s are a critical understandment of parenting to push children to prepare for their futures. I agree with Tiger Mom’s objectives but not with all of her methods. Tiger Mom’s objectives are truly remarkable in my opinion, but I would change possibly 2 ways of her methods.
In the shadow of her mother’s fame and success, Christina grew up in an unpredictable family environment. She would have to act presentable in public and especially to guests so she wouldn’t ruin her mother’s reputation and image. She became a victim of fame and fortune itself except it was not by being spoiled, but instead she was a victim of her mother’s unpredictable levels of sanity. At first it seems as if Christina's mom would end up spoiling her new child Christina, but it eventually turns into her mom trying much too hard to teach her discipline, often times going a little bit too far. Fame and fortune does not always take its toll on children through spoiling them, but Christina’s story shows that it can definitely take a toll on a family.
Jing-mei is lazy to learn and does not cherish the opportunity to learn piano which leads her cannot perform well. Jing-mei can perform well if she practices piano regularly as practice makes perfect. In the writer's opinion, Jing-mei always thinks that a prodigy is never practice to achieve success but in reality a prodigy spends years to perfect the techniques. Success does not just happen. In the writer's view, Jing-mei is a stubborn girl.
They sign them up with the expectations that their child will have fun, learn to be socially skilled or have a healthier childhood. Every child athlete needs a cheering section and a major source of support and encouragement comes from their parents. This parental support has been shown to lead to greater enjoyment of sports and more positive self worth and a positive outlook on performance (win or lose). However, some parents become so focused on their child perfecting every aspect of the game that they forget to let the child have fun. ( Hoyle and Leff).
When an infant has had an attachment and it has been broken. There is research done into deprivation by Bowlby. This is his Maternal deprivation hypothesis, which stated the belief that if an infant was unable to build a "warm, intimate, continuous relationship with its mother", it would then result in having difficulties building relationships with other people and also the risk of behavioural disorders. This hypothesis says that relationships that are discontinuous or where there are separations becomes unstable which causes the development of the relationship to be disrupted. It focuses on how important an relationship between a mother and child is.
While in her mother’s eyes, she only supported her daughter and craved the absolute best for her child. Schwind-Pawlak presents this argument poorly due to her change of heart towards the end of the essay. She does not stick to her beginning argument which causes the opposition to lack stability. The two authors support their arguments by providing evidence. The supporting evidence of the two essay’s help reveal the hardships teenagers face while dealing with their parents.
JONATHAN GRUPENACHER ESLL 26 HOLLY CROWER ESSAY 2 DRAFT 1 CHILDREN NEED TO PLAY, NOT COMPETE Competing between the ages of six and twelve can affect the physical and psychological development of a child and provide wrong thoughts to people. As Jessica Statsky mentions in “Children Need to Play, Not Compete,” the expectation of always winning and the fear of being hurt can depress and discourage children. Also, competing can be considered counterproductive, since players are eliminated before being ready to enter into contest. Additionally, even though the risk of injury is very small, children are not yet physically prepared to crash into others. Finally, competing involves a lot of pressure, which unconsciously makes kids focus only on winning.
Each task doesn’t turn out the way Jing-mei’s mom wants it to so finally, she just gives up trying and deems her daughter a failure. I’ve been in Jing-mei’s shoes because my parents, especially my dad, love to enforce the importance of being the best of the best. By the end of first grade to the beginning of second grade, I was learning my times tables so I could be ahead of all my other classmates. I started piano lessons when I was six, singing lessons when I was seven and violin lessons when I turned nine. I didn’t realize at the time, but my parents were just trying to show me a variety of options I had.
Jing-Mei believes her mother is forcing this life upon her because she wants to show her off to her friend. But I believe, her mother wants this for her because living in China, she may have not gotten the chance to do whatever she wanted like she can now, in America. What Jing-Mei doesn’t realize is, she could have been a piano prodigy, if she tried. She only wants to be lazy and not work at anything. Jing-Mei saw her piano lessons as something her mother made her do, instead of something she could be great at.
I dropped out of college. For unlike my mother, I did not believe I could be anything I wanted to be. I could only be me (Tan 522). In Jing-Mei’s mothers effort to make her a prodigy, she actually taught her one of the most important life lessons, that is that you can not live out to the expectations of other people, that you must establish your own identity, own expectation for yourself and find happiness in being the best that you can be. When Jing-Mei’s mother passes, for the first time in quite a while Jing-Mei sat at the piano in her mother’s apartment, the same one she practiced at when she was attempting to become a prodigy child and played “Pleading Child” (Tan 523) the same piece she played at the recital.