Janie’s Self Identity Self Identity is who you are to yourself. Self-Identity is important because you need to know who you are and it gives you internal peace. When people can’t find their own identity they start to try and blend in with others. At first Janie couldn’t find her own identity and was not at peace with herself. Janie had problems finding her own identity, bad marriages, unworthy friends, and very jealous townspeople caused her difficulties.
People will often ask what makes a good or long lasting relationship. In truth there is no one answer, what works for some will not work for others, it’s about finding the balance that suits the both people. At the beginning of a new relationship, the excitement of being in that relationship helps us to not see the things the other person does which may cause annoyance. At this stage in the relationship both parties find themselves faced with everyday realities which means they have to work at the relationship to find and maintain a balance. When couples are faced with life changing events or illnesses the balance changes quickly and they will find themselves in the difficult position of facing their own feelings and fears while trying to support each other.
Different events throughout the play lead these relationships to change, and lead both Romeo and Juliet to distrust their parental figures. For example when the Nurse, whom Juliet trusts deeply, refers to Romeo as a “dishclout” despite knowing that he is Juliet’s husband, this then leads Juliet to distrust the Nurse. When Capulet’s “fingers itch” after Juliet has disobeyed him, this could also be seen as failure on Capulet’s part to be a good parent. Some may argue that these events are examples of how Romeo and Juliet are failed by their parents and parental figures. In Act 3 scene 5 it could be argued that Juliet is failed by both her parents.
In the end resolution is needed to establish some sort of common ground, but this would be the most difficult of the stages in a conflict to be pursued. When conflict arises, truth often becomes a matter of perception rather than reality. This is evident in the book “The Quiet American” by Graham Greene where it shows the love triangle between the main characters. The conflict here is between Pyle and Fowler where they fight over Phuong. Pyle’s perception is that he is confident Phuong will go for him but in reality she picks Fowler.
This was a time when marriage was criticised due to the lack of emotional involvement and loyalty was also questioned in committed relationships. In the beginning, Lewis agrees with Nick and Lucy claiming that “love is not so important nowadays”. His statements surprised some of the patients and they were “looking at Lewis as if he was mad”. To characters like Henry, Roy and Ruth, love and fidelity are very significant in a relationship. Nowra however shows that through Lewis’ discussions with the patients and the ironies found in Cosi Fan Tutte helps Lewis to change his view on love and relationships.
This is where trouble happens. Many are so enamored by the Dream that when reality hits, it hits hard. The Dream cannot always be fulfilled. It gives many individuals false hope; they have such high expectations that in the end, their dreams are denied. In a Newsweek article, Death of a Dream, it talks about the idea of a “bubble dependency.” Many people were very excited about the emergence of the housing market; “people cheered as their home's "value" increased 20 percent annually.” However, when the housing bubble burst, the real-estate economy slowly evaporated and families were felt with debt.
A great deal of honesty is important between spouses and is needed in order to sustain a happy loving relationship. The film Lantana clearly demonstrates this through the characters of Leon who initially is dishonest of his affair to his wife, Sonja, but manages to confess and eventually saves his marriage, and John who is hardly honest with his wife, Valerie and thus did not end with a happy marriage. The film also shows how honesty builds mutual trust in relationships, as evident with Nik and Paula by, and is another main element that comprises a firm marriage. Honesty plays an important role in reigniting a passionate relationship. Sonja is not satisfied with the dispassionate marriage she is having with Leon as she describes it as merely “going through the motion”.
The author shows how Ed Kennedy brings happiness in the Tatupu family by giving them a little gift. The author shows how little things are more worthy in life than big things. The other quality that is shown in both novels about the meaning of a good human is through altruism. Ed is an altruistic person; he chooses to help those that need him. Ed knows that he has to finish the last three missions anyhow because they were about his closest friends.
Anna was drowning in the misery of her marriage and in guilt from seeing another man on one side but is happy to be with Gurov. Anna states that, “for years now they had not been comfortable together, in their intimacy and at a distance… It was something they might have known once” (Oates 449), which explains that her unhappy marriage forced her to search for a person to fulfill the lost emotions at home. Committing adultery is more of an emotional fulfillment that it is a physical need but it derives from the want to find someone who means something more. If couple who married shows that they do not love each other mutually, it should be acceptable for the two to be involved in an affair because neither of them truly gets hurt, providing act of cheating to be meaningless and
“Love is not so important these days”… “What planet are you from?” love means something different to each character in the play. Discuss In Nowra’s play “Cosi” meaning of love is explored and challenged by the views of different characters. Each character has a clear definition of their personal and distinct understanding of what love and fidelity means. This assists in the notion of love beholding abundance of paradoxical nature. The characters also endorse the importance of love that is practical and realistic, this aspect of the play is illustrated mostly by the mental patients who have issues with distinguishing reality from their illusions.